John Boyer (
Fri, 22 Aug 1997 08:01:26 -0500

[rohit wrote]
>It may sound fake from our limited FoRK community relationship, but:
>I am really proud of you, JoeIII.

Not to get too sappy here. But I'm proud of you too.
And please forgive me Joe. My ribbing you was not very cool.
We've all done things that we are ashamed/sorry for. Frankly I was
astonished by your frankness. That is manly. I don't know if I could/can do

>I think Juliet knows I'm quite capable of punishing myself sufficiently
>for what I've done. Or more precisely, that punishment isn't the issue.

I didn't mean to imply punishment was required. I guess I meant
thankfulness. The thread started off with a reference to "coasting" versus
getting some major piece of work done.
What is a career worth when you risk losing what you are supposedly working
so hard for?
There must be a balance. I am speaking to myself here. A year ago I left
SAIC and started my own company (with two partners). I work at home about
70% of the time. Balancing deadlines and fear of failure with attention to
a wife and two kids is very hard; and I'm home all day! It would be really
tough if I worked for MSFT.

The thing that keeps me going is that God forgives. Forgiving yourself and
getting others to forgive you are somewhat trickier. But Joe the simple fact
that you are so forthright about it all indicates that you are indeed over
the hump and that you know what you have. Like I said, I am proud, and
happy, for you.

best regards,

--- "I don't want to make the wrong mistake" Thanh Boyer