Re: Being 23, in the FoRKa's Paradise.

Tim Byars (
Wed, 22 Jul 1998 09:16:46 -0700

At 8:50 AM -0700 7/22/98, Dr. Ernest N. Prabhakar came up with this:

> Hi Tim,
> I think you're missing Joe's point, though it is a subtle one. I agree
>we shouldn't try to "fix Rohit" - he's going through a process, and
>arguably a healthy one.
> However, it is likely to be a painful and disruptive process, as several
>of us know from personal experience. What I think Joe (and others) are
>trying to do is share some insights to help Rohit manage the process more
>effectively, and perhaps with less damage than we ourselves did. This is
>a very different thing than trying to abort or short-circuit the process,
>which appears to be your concern.
> -- Ernie P.

And with that I wonder what the motives are? So your saying that people on
this list are assuming the role of surrogate parent to Rohit? Isn't that
just a tad disrespectful? Are you saying that Rohit is to stupid to figure
it out for himself? Or his upbringing is lacking? Or he is to fragile and
will be shattered by life's experiences?

It's one thing to see a friend in crisis and intervene. This seems to be



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