[FoRK] social alienation...

Strata R. Chalup strata
Sat Sep 24 15:03:29 PDT 2005

Being social can be fun, but it's also work.  The general public don't really 
present a problem.   I talk with them about universals: pets, gardening, etc.  I 
have something to learn from everyone.

It's the other really smart people who I have trouble with most of the time.  I 
don't find it entertaining or inherently worthwhile to engage in the kind of 
intellectual dick-fluffing and dung-throwing that passes for socialization among 
the self-proclaimed higher life-forms.

At least, 99% of the time.  I do seem to be writing this message, and it's not 
in a kinder gentler mode.

Takes more than just smart people to solve the social alienation issue.  Takes 
smart people who aren't type-A competitive, and who enjoy 'just hanging out'. 
Those are pretty hard to find.

When I do find them, and relax enough to 'just be myself', I often get accused 
of trying to steamroller or show off.  Yet if I don't engage in the constant 
argument-for-the-sake-of-argument interactions, in RL or online, I am assumed to 
be stupid, ignorant, or both.  So the people who bluster the loudest about 
things they don't know jack about take control of the social space and yammer 
away, taking silence for assent.  Every now and then, the topic will be 
something about which I give a sufficient damn to take the time to engage. 
Sometimes we both learn something.  More often, they do.

I mostly don't hang out with people.  Works for me.

My, aren't we cheerful today.

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