[FoRK] postcards from paradise
Tue Nov 15 19:27:37 PST 2005
On Nov 15, 2005, at 8:53 PM, Joe Barrera wrote:
> Jeff Bone wrote:
>> Got hitched, despite all rational reasons / historical argument to
>> the contrary. Currently in tropical paradise, further details
>> forthcoming at some point.
> Meanwhile, my dear wife is divorcing me... *sigh*
Joe, if this is your first divorce... I don't know your context, but
from my own experience --- you should fucking celebrate. The first
marriage is almost always, apparently, a mistake. It took me 13
years post-divorce to get to the second one; 10 years of shacking up
before I felt comfortable enough. You are going to have a HARD TIME,
buddy... your oxytocin's fucked, your seratonin's fucked, etc. etc.
You are going to have some HARD NIGHTS for about 2-6 months. The
more you LIVE LIFE --- and by that, I mean PARTY HARD --- the
better. In the meantime surround yourself 24x7 with *younger,
single* friends that have the same PARTY HARD agenda --- and you'll
be better off. You *can* rewire your brain and body after a
relationship like this. Just cater to your biological whims ---
indeed, indulge, encourage, and even coerce them. Live like you were
Look at it as a reprieve. Live the next 6-12 months of your life as
if you were 21 again, and your body will do its evolutionary best to
meet the demands you make of it --- you will GROW YOUNGER. It's
hard, but it's a blessing (word I hate) --- not a curse.
Let yourself jibe your way through the next few months. Your
superego will keep you on an even keel.
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