[FoRK] Kelley Howell

Rohit Khare rkhare at gmail.com
Wed Oct 31 13:33:42 PDT 2018


Thanks for sharing those bits of wisdom from a sad moment.

 Best wishes for those here and past, Rohit

On Sat, Oct 13, 2018, 10:42 PM geege schuman <geege4 at gmail.com wrote:

> Here’s Kelley’s FB post from mid-September. She was thinking of us until
> the end.
>
> It’s getting that time my lovely fam. Your body just knows. I'm too weak
> for any treatments and the pain is horrific. It has been a hard day with
> therapy and I'm so exhausted, too tired to battle. I'm refusing treatment
> and getting ready for hospice. I don't imagine I can live this way for even
> a couple of weeks. Which sounds horrific, but it's a godsend to hear your
> body tell you it's time, to feel the relief and not be afraid.
>
> It's peaceful. It's liberating. Your choices are narrowed, you don't have
> to fret anymore which, for us modern Americans is precisely what's making
> us sick on every level: too many useless choices, too many demands on the
> time we have to live and enjoy our communities. And we do it all, too
> often,  without communities to support us because they've been ravaged by
> modern life, a precarious economy, what Habermas called the colonization of
> our lifeworld by the state and a soul crushing market economy.
>
> If you are of this political persuasion, carry on the fight to make us all
> more free, whole humans who can achieve and do anything in the context of
> communities overflowing with human love, human potential. It's always about
> freedom.
>
> I thought y'all would find it a comfort to know that while I'm sad to have
> little time to do a few things, I'm not especially afraid. I did take half
> an atavan, tho. *smile*
>
> On Sun, Oct 14, 2018 at 12:11 AM Stephen D. Williams <sdw at lig.net> wrote:
>
> > I am sorry to say that Kelley Howell has lost her fight with cancer at
> the
> > very young age of 56.  She was bright, interesting,
> > challenging, and she seemed to handle everything gracefully.  She seemed
> > to be as thoughtful as possible to everyone, right down to
> > sharing her final playlist:
> >
> >
> >
> https://open.spotify.com/user/31krvklcosxtlgqsmygxfntlxgpa/playlist/096Y4qM5zzW3spLPc5oyKf
> >
> > I am including a copy of this very thoughtful post that went with it:
> >
> > Oct. 4 2018 1:31am:
> >
> > > Hello Everyone,
> > >
> > > This is Rhys and Dan, posting from Kelley's account.
> > >
> > > We all know it's been a while since you've heard from our favorite and
> > beloved expositor so, she asked that a post be made on her
> > > behalf. To tell y'all about her superlicious final moments
> > headphones-only playlist.
> > >
> > > She first called it a sort of joke, but quickly amended that to say it
> > was a light-hearted "Here's the music I like, like it or
> > > roast me" sort of thing. Or maybe it was just a "What do y'all think?
> > Like my music or is there a dissertation in what is wrong
> > > with it?" sort of thing. My memory fuzzes on nailing down particulars
> > like that right now.
> > >
> > > Personally, I think that she welcomes properly-formed critiques and is
> > willing to hear suggestions, but they may or may not be
> > > acted upon depending on multiple factors too complicated to detail
> here.
> > >
> > > Her health continues its downward trajectory I'm sorry to say. We are
> > hoping for improvement but we are not being naive about it.
> > >
> > > If I can issue a final message from all of us, it might be this:
> > > Life is short, relish the moments available to you while you can. Share
> > with others. Love and make memories worth remembering.
> > > Life is short, chaotic, and random. Despite us wishing otherwise
> there's
> > no pattern or grand plan behind any of it. There's
> > > nothing we can do to improve it, except to do our best to be kind to
> one
> > another.
> > >
> > > Rhys
> >
> > https://www.facebook.com/kelley.g.howell
> >
> > https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelleychowell/
> >
> > Under mutual connections, LinkedIn tells me: "You and Kelley both know
> > Damien Morton".
> >
> >
> >
> > My set of related PSAs:
> >
> > Be aggressive about anything that might be cancer, especially skin,
> > throat, and subdermal.  #NoBumpsPolicy  #WhenInDoubtCutItOut
> > Except prostate, use the new injected steam minimizing thing there
> instead
> > of surgery when possible.
> >
> > Did you know that adults can ask for the HPV vaccine (insist with your
> > doctor), that the FDA just "approved" it for adults, and that
> > Australia believes they will be cervical cancer free soon?  They've been
> > vaccinating everyone for a while and they state that 99.7%
> > of cervical cancers are caused by HPV.  (And it is a main cause of throat
> > cancers.)
> >
> > For men, more sex leads to less cancer.
> >
> > If you have chronic afib (atrial fibrillation), get cardioablation
> > surgery.  It's a standard thing now, 1 day outpatient catheter
> > surgery, doesn't cost much (on contract rates), and can permanently fix
> > the issue, which includes heart decline and risk of stroke.
> >
> > And use a CPAP if you snore (enough to have apneas at all, or that keeps
> > anyone awake).
> >
> > And, most of all, exercise a lot, primarily endurance sports: running,
> > steep hiking, strenuous biking, inline skating, kayaking,
> > bootcamp continuous weight workouts, constant dancing, or rock climbing.
> > If you aren't sweating and breathing really hard for
> > several hours a week, you're not keeping your cardiovascular system in
> > good shape so it will decline quickly.  And it is likely
> > highly anti-cancer.
> >
> > Weight is bad, but a little isn't as bad as they used to think. Past a
> > certain age, being too thin is worse.  Cardio health is far
> > more important than weight, although of course they are related to some
> > extent.
> >
> > Stephen
> >
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