Re: Divorce: shared custody should be mandatory

From: Stephen D. Williams (
Date: Fri Feb 23 2001 - 09:37:04 PST wrote:

> In a message dated 2/23/01 1:00:32 AM Eastern Standard Time,
> writes:
> << You seem to be indicating that being a stepdad to children that are in
> joint custody would be much worse than the current sole/visitation
> standard. I don't see it. >>
> it's exactly like this: if i were to say that 65% of marriages end in
> divorce - a recent statistic - would you assume i was indicating no one
> should get married?

100% of lives end in death. Big deal. The concept that marriage should
last until one of you dies isn't necessarily that logical. It
definitely made sense when the average lifespan was 25 or 35 years; it's
less supportable now. It's not a bad ideal of course. The fact that
many divorce is directly related to how they view life, compatibility,
growth or the lack thereof, and all kinds of relationship messiness that
is unpredictable at best.

It's much more important to be happy, healthy, productive, and cared for
than to achieve some pristine life record of a single lifetime
marriage. You certainly don't want to be alone too much, especially as
you get older.

Now why did you bring up that point anyway? I was contrasting two
post-divorce situations that are directly related to my proposition.
You seem to like that status quo more than my proposition that more
joint custody would be better. I simply want clarification of your
position so I can understand it.


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