Re: Divorce: shared custody should be mandatory

From: Stephen D. Williams (
Date: Sun Feb 25 2001 - 08:26:38 PST

While it's obligatory to point out that there are cultural and more importantly
fad-experiment phases that society goes through wrg to accepted child rearing practices, I
agree this would be a great idea. You need a license to drive a car but not to have a
child. (How many times have you thought that when noticing an inept or uncaring parent?)

BTW, this should be taught Only by experienced and relatively successful parents, not a 22
YO with a sociology degree and only the hottest theories (in need of experimentation) of
the day. Paired, might be ok. Isn't odd that in parenting, just as you become wise,
understanding, and very good at parenting you are done? (Except for grandparenting of
course.) Lends some credibility to boarding schools, although that's a poor solution in
many other ways it seems to me.

sdw wrote:

> A parenting class wouldn't hurt either. Most valuable class I ever took,
> so I took it twice. THAT should be mandatory, if anything is.
> Counselling only helps someone if they think they need the help. A
> parenting class gives valuable information, even if someone already thinks
> s/he knows it all.
> C
> On Sat, 24 Feb 2001 wrote:
> > let me say this and be done with it:
> >
> > any of you folks gone thru a divorce out there? it can take years. so,
> > while dr. laura might be suggesting a couple can't even file for divorce
> > until they've gone thru MARRIAGE counseling, i'm suggesting that, once
> > they've filed, a couple WITH CHILDREN should HAVE to go thru FAMILY
> > COUNSELING while separated and awaiting the final divorce decree. when i
> > went thru my simple divorce (no kids involved) we had case maintenance
> > hearings every couple of months. that would be the perfect time for a FAMILY
> > COUNSELOR to report to the judge what is going on. if parents feel there is
> > a real consequence (besides screwing up their kids) maybe they'd put some
> > effort into learning healthy parenting behaviors.
> >
> > (you know, in some ways divorce is like the gun control issue. some people
> > don't want even a three-day waiting period to get their "freedom" in their
> > hands.)
> >
> > over and out,
> > gg
> >
> --
> "Think wrongly, if you please, but in all cases, think for yourself." --Doris Lessing,
> British writer

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